Also, the time we do spend together, my boyfriend doesn't feel like or doesn't have the desire to do anything besides sit at home and watch movies together. He used to go absolutely crazy for me, and literally wherever we could, we would have sex. My boy-friend and I are 37 and 29 and we have been together for 3 years. Do this even if you are in different states or countries. Saying “I love you” doesn't deepen a connection unless it’s accompanied by actions.
He used to be very spontaneous, and now as time has passed, it seems like he does not feel it necessary to show me a good time anymore. He would make me feel more wanted and beautiful than anyone ever could. This whole "lack of spark" has made me feel incredibly frustrated and depressed. cuse I get bullied at school and he tries to stick up for me but then they start to make fun of him for dating me.... Leave love notes under your partner’s pillow when you are going to be out of town.
Next, make sure that you give him space Well, remember what I was saying before about guys not wanting to appear out of control or needing of help/support?
And the one time I told him about how I felt, how I thought that I feel like he's un-excited about us anymore, he started crying. Remember he's the man in the relationship, and he's the one getting down on one knee to you. Fix the leak in the bathroom he’s been complaining about.
MORE: What to Do When a Guy Withdraws With that said, when a guy is under a lot of emotional or psychological stress, he will want to withdraw socially until he’s figured out his situation.
Guys don’t like to be around people when they don’t think they’re at the top of their game. So just remember that his withdrawing is a result of him not wanting to appear weak or out of control and just allow him space for that.
I think we have had a wonderful relationship thus far, and he has even said so himself. However, lately, I have been worried that we may be losing the "spark" that our relationship always had. Try to find other ways to spark your relationship up.
In the first year of us dating, we always went on adventures and did fun things together. A couple of months ago, we began living together, and it seems that from that point on, our time together began to get less frequent (ironically). I got this from one website that I was refereed too along time ago which lists 7 key things you could do to Ignite that Spark: 1) Love is an action: Show your partner how you feel about them every day, at least once a day.